Monday, August 4, 2008


I turn 35 today. A few months ago when I thought about this impending birthday, I felt good about it. I felt like I had come to a point in my life where I feel good about myself, I know who I am, and where I am going. I have known women in their 40's that seem so confident and sure of themselves, flaws and all. I was starting to feel like I was getting to that point in my own life. Sure, I have started to notice a few wrinkles in the last year or 2 and I am still 15 lbs over my pre -baby weight even though my baby is 5 years old, but I haven't found any gray hairs, yet, and attractiveness is 3/4 confidence anyway, right?

But then I went to the mall...

If you are over 30, I do not recommend shopping for clothing at the mall. I haven't shopped at the mall for years. I figured I couldn't afford the clothes there. But we just moved and I wanted to check out mall here and I had birthday money to spend. So Saturday, I went to the mall. Now, I gave up shopping in the juniors section when I was 29, but what I didn't realize is that the mall (except the department stores) is one big junior's section. When I came home crying - yes, I really did cry, I guess I am not quite as self actualized as I thought - my dh pointed out that, of course the mall is a bad place for a 35 year old to shop, the mall is designed for 13 - 21 year olds to hang out at... Duh!

But here is my dilemma. Where do women in their 30's shop? The cute clothing at the mall and in the junior's section is not cut to fit a woman in her 30's, skinny or not. Nor is most of it really appropriate either. I have been looking for graphic t- shirts, but I don't think a 35 year old mother of 3 should run around in a shirt that says," I kissed a girl and I liked it." I was also looking for a lace bottomed tank to wear under stuff, but apparently if you have short waist, the lace will hit you about mid thigh and that is just not attractive at all. But I don't want to wear old lady clothes, now or ever really.

So I have resigned myself to plain colored t- shirts and jeans. And until I get nominated for "What Not to Wear," I will be shopping at Target, Ross, Marshall's, and Macy's (sale rack and store brand) And carefully avoiding the junior's section.

Maybe next year I will become the confident middle aged - ack! - woman that I dream of becoming...


Wendy said...

Happy Birthday! Mine is tomorrow. I will be 33.
I really like Gap and Old Navy (Gap actually owns Old Navy). You can find all sizes. I have also found cute things at Ann Taylor on the sale rack.

JNH said...

Happy birthday :)
You are a very good writer!
I love this post!

Tracy B. said...

Happy birthday, Michelle! I got my blog layout at
Marquesas actually found the site and got her layout there. When I saw hers, I thought it was cute and asked her where she got it from.

Valarie said...

Just FYI.....if any "middle aged" mother of three could pull off an "I kissed a girl and I liked it" shirt, it would totally be you!! Happy Belated Birthday!

molly said...

Happy be-lated birthday! Welocme to the "I hate the Mall"club. I am certain you look great, stick with all those posotive thought! 35 is great, your 40's are even better!

Just T said...

Happy Belated Birthday!

I can totally relate. I will be 35 my next bday (not til January) and HATE shopping for clothes. I've turned into the frumpy SAHM, and I hate, hate, hate it!

There never seems to be an in-between style, unless you are supermodel thin. It's either teenage/early 20's or granny style grrr

Good luck!